This is 19 weeks with Owen This is 19 weeks with Hannah Mae
Maybe it's not as obvious in a picture but I am a lot bigger with Hannah Mae than I was with Owen. Anyways, I feel a lot bigger with this little girl than I did with Owen. I mean, seriously, I wasn't even really showing with Owen at this stage. I don't think I 'showed' until 25-26 weeks with him. I went to the beach at 18 weeks pregnant with him, wore my regular bathing suit (a two piece) and no one could tell I was pregnant. I could not get away with that now. Depending upon what I wear now, I can get by without looking pregnant (I think). There are actually a few people at church that didn't know I was pregnant until last week. There are probably still a few people that don't know yet, which suits me just fine because the stupid insensitive oblivious comments have begun and I'm not looking forward to getting any more of them. *sigh*
Over Thanksgiving, I was talking/venting to my mom about the crazy things people say and the vibe I get from people when they talk to me about Hannah Mae. I told her that I feel like people are acting as if Hannah Mae is my first baby, my first pregnancy (this feeling has only been validated not discredited by two comments from this past weekend).
Someone, who knows full well about Owen, actually told me after they heard she's a girl that their first baby was a girl too. Um...hello...my first baby was Owen. A boy.
I was flabbergasted. Luckily, God was gracious to me and this woman- I did not bite her head off and I was able to respond politely, 'No, my first baby was a boy, Owen. I had a boy first and now I'm having a girl.'
'Of course, of course' was her response.
Yes, well, that's not what it sounded like to me.
I know I need to be more gracious with people. I can imagine that I'm not the easiest person to talk to, but seriously, I am struggling to believe that these people are even trying to be sensitive and think about what's coming out of their mouths.
I could take up a few hours and vent some more about the crazy things people say, but I don't think I would feel any better and I know it wouldn't do anyone any good.
Please pray for me as I attempt to be gracious in the presence of ignorant, well meaning people. I will pray for you too...
I have to try and remember that I was once in their same club. I didn't understand either. I most likely thought all kinds of crazy things and probably said some of them out loud too.
And because I need some levity in my life and because some of you really enjoyed my Maggie and me picture from last week...here's two more of us practicing our baby holding skills. It's not easy to football hold a cat, let me tell you. And as for the upside down cat one, I have no excuse.